Be Yourself, No Matter What They Say. 5 Ways How

                                                                   Just be yourself. Loved for who we are Sounds easy. I’ve heard it many times, and for many years, I thought I was actually being myself. The truth is, I wasn’t. I was pretending. When someone asked me to do something, I did it. I often did not pause to feel what was right for me or what I wanted to do. Mechanically, I performed. I wanted to be liked. I wanted people to think I was smart, capable and nice. I wanted to be the “good girl”. I grew up with the idea that if i did what I was told, I was a good girl. I would get more smiles and less conflicts. I wanted to be loved. Not being liked was the most painful thing I could think of. So I adjusted to everyone at every moment according to what they wanted from me. I smiled when I felt sad, felt guilt about feeling angry, and danced when i felt like sitting. In the meantime, I lost myself. I forgot who I was and what was important to me. I kept looking on the outside for approval, and lost what I now know is most important to me: My own voice. My voice, my voice!! I get happy just writing those words! Our voice is makes us unique and extraordinary and is God-given. It is our light that guides us through life! Our sadness, our anger and our joy are all to be celebrated! Now I am the “bad girl”. I’m the girl who says “no” to things I don’t want, even if others think it’s wrong, and yes only to things I do want. And this helps me feel more alive. Setting boundaries and embracing our feelings makes us lighter and more energetic. Juicier. All of our feelings are unique to us, fresh and  true. What can be better that that? Pretending to be something else? I don’t think so. If we listen closely, our voice is speaking softly to us  each and every moment. Our voice can often go against everything we were ever told.  That is ok. It just means something new wants to be explored and that something new wants to come through you. And that can be scary. Because each and every one of our voices is so unique and different, it can often feel alone. But if we can have fun with it and transform it into something creative, what comes after can be magical. Sadness can become a beautiful dance, anger a beautiful sharing with a friend, and joy, the most amazing meal you ever created. Any feeling can be transformed into creativity. If that’s not magic, I don’t know what is. That magic, your magic, then serves the world. And all you had to do was be yourself.   5 practices that help me be myself: -Accepting and breathing with my feelings, including anger and sadness. They are all there to help me learn something and guide me. They are my sacred truth -Accept that I have my own truth and was meant to live the life I truly want, not the life others think is good for me -Follow my own voice and trust its intelligence and its goodness–no matter what -Transform the energy of feelings into something creative such as writing or dancing -Not taking myself too seriously. Relaxing and having fun!   I would love to read about ways your have learned to stay true to yourself.   Jivan Dios is a Canadian Family Constellation Therapist living & working in English, French & Greek in Stockholm, Sweden and on the island of Crete in Greece where she offers couples retreats, therapy & holistic healing.  Online Therapy is also available. contact jivan@opentherapy.se +46.760.455.299   [contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]

How Listening to My Body’s Messages Saved My Life

If I would have believed the doctors and not trusted my own body’s messages, I don’t know if I would be alive today.

My body’s messages is what saved my life.

After numerous doctors visits, I still did not feel at ease when the doctors diagnosed me with an ovarian cyst. The surgeon who was to operate on me told me I had to wait seven months to have it surgically removed. The first doctor I saw didn’t even return my calls after a first visit because it was “nothing serious”. I told the surgeon I was in much pain, that I had to pee every 10 minutes and that my belly was growing by the week. He said, “It’s nothing to worry about. This is a normal cyst. Just relax.” My cyst was deemed non-suspicious, but my body could not relax. Somehow, something didn’t fit. Something was keeping my body from relaxing…

I was restless. My tummy felt anxious. I couldn’t sleep. My legs wanted to move. I lay down one day and simply listened and watched every bodily sensation. I noticed breath, aches and pains. Then, a sentence came to me very strongly through my belly: “Those doctors have no clue what’s really wrong! You cannot wait seven months for surgery! Investigate!” It was a voice so loud that I could not ignore it. I didn’t wait another moment and made an appointment with my surgeon and out of nowhere came the following words out of my mouth: “Do you offer private surgeries outside the Canadian health care system? To my surprise, the answer was yes, for $2,750. Some family and friends told me not to pay so much for the surgery when I could get it for free if I just waited a few months… They told me to take it easy and believe the doctors. They told me that they are the professionals and they know better than me.

My belly didn’t believe it. Five days later and thanks to the private surgery, I received an early-stage cancer diagnosis. If I had waited seven months as the doctor recommended, the cancer would have likely spread. I don’t know if I would be alive today. That was the best 2,750$ I ever spent, hands down! This is not the first time my body was trying to send me important messages. My body had been telling me for months that it wasn’t happy and that it was getting sick. It felt nauseous and tired. But I didn’t listen. If I had, it would have told me that it wanted to live in another place. It wanted to work with something else, something meaningful. It wanted to laugh and dance. Most importantly, my body wanted to be heard. I just had to listen. If I had, I don’t believe I would have developed cancer.

One of the many (believe it or not) wonderful things that came with a cancer diagnosis is a new relationship with my body. We are now best of friends. I can trust it. I know it saved my life. I now listen to it closely because I know it has intelligence far more sophisticated than my mind. If you have difficulty making a decision, ask your body.

When taking a moment to feeling each option, paying attention to which one makes your body’s energy go higher? That one is the right decision. This is fun, because you don’t even need to think. Just ask your body. It never lies! But it is not always easy to listen. Quite often while growing up, we are told to fight the body and its feelings. Don’t tremble with fear, don’t run, don’t laugh too loudly, and don’t dance. Eat all of your food even if you’re not hungry. Drink coffee if you’re tired; you can’t sleep now. Over time, this causes us to lose our connection to our bodies and ultimately our trust in them. By losing our connection to our bodies, we lose our connection to Nature and Life itself. Our bodies are innocent. They are primal and natural and are connected to all of Nature and the universe with its million and one happenings in every moment. How could it not be? As with all beings in Nature, our body works perfectly on its own without the need to think.

As Osho, a great mystic, once said, the grass grows by itself… When we are connected to our bodies and listen closely, something begins to guide us, something bigger, taking us to the next step and then the next step. This something can show up as an inner voice, a knowing or a hunch. Sometimes it can come as physical pain.

This something is what I call Life, the great mystery, always gently guiding us back to the center of it all…Love. In what ways has your body

Originally posted in www.elephantjournal.com

How Listening to My Body’s Messages Saved My Life

Jivan Dios

Jivan Dios

If I would have believed the doctors and not trusted my own body’s messages, I don’t know if I would be alive today. My body’s messages is what saved my life. After numerous doctors visits, I still did not feel at ease when the doctors diagnosed me with an ovarian cyst. The surgeon who was to operate on me told me I had to wait seven months to have it surgically removed. The first doctor I saw didn’t even return my calls after a first visit because it was “nothing serious”. I told the surgeon I was in much pain, that I had to pee every 10 minutes and that my belly was growing by the week. He said, “It’s nothing to worry about. This is a normal cyst. Just relax.” My cyst was deemed non-suspicious, but my body could not relax. Somehow, something didn’t fit. Something was keeping my body from relaxing… I was restless. My tummy felt anxious. I couldn’t sleep. My legs wanted to move. I lay down one day and simply listened and watched every bodily sensation. I noticed breath, aches and pains. Then, a sentence came to me very strongly through my belly: “Those doctors have no clue what’s really wrong! You cannot wait seven months for surgery! Investigate!” It was a voice so loud that I could not ignore it. I didn’t wait another moment and made an appointment with my surgeon and out of nowhere came the following words out of my mouth: “Do you offer private surgeries outside the Canadian health care system? To my surprise, the answer was yes, for $2,750. Some family and friends told me not to pay so much for the surgery when I could get it for free if I just waited a few months… They told me to take it easy and believe the doctors. They told me that they are the professionals and they know better than me. My belly didn’t believe it. Five days later and thanks to the private surgery, I received an early-stage cancer diagnosis. If I had waited seven months as the doctor recommended, the cancer would have likely spread. I don’t know if I would be alive today. That was the best 2,750$ I ever spent, hands down! This is not the first time my body was trying to send me important messages. My body had been telling me for months that it wasn’t happy and that it was getting sick. It felt nauseous and tired. But I didn’t listen. If I had, it would have told me that it wanted to live in another place. It wanted to work with something else, something meaningful. It wanted to laugh and dance. Most importantly, my body wanted to be heard. I just had to listen. If I had, I don’t believe I would have developed cancer. One of the many (believe it or not) wonderful things that came with a cancer diagnosis is a new relationship with my body. We are now best of friends. I can trust it. I know it saved my life. I now listen to it closely because I know it has intelligence far more sophisticated than my mind. If you have difficulty making a decision, ask your body. When taking a moment to feeling each option, paying attention to which one makes your body’s energy go higher? That one is the right decision. This is fun, because you don’t even need to think. Just ask your body. It never lies! But it is not always easy to listen. Quite often while growing up, we are told to fight the body and its feelings. Don’t tremble with fear, don’t run, don’t laugh too loudly, and don’t dance. Eat all of your food even if you’re not hungry. Drink coffee if you’re tired; you can’t sleep now. Over time, this causes us to lose our connection to our bodies and ultimately our trust in them. By losing our connection to our bodies, we lose our connection to Nature and Life itself. Our bodies are innocent. They are primal and natural and are connected to all of Nature and the universe with its million and one happenings in every moment. How could it not be? As with all beings in Nature, our body works perfectly on its own without the need to think. As Osho, a great mystic, once said, the grass grows by itself… When we are connected to our bodies and listen closely, something begins to guide us, something bigger, taking us to the next step and then the next step. This something can show up as an inner voice, a knowing or a hunch. Sometimes it can come as physical pain. This something is what I call Life, the great mystery, always gently guiding us back to the center of it all…Love. How and what is your body communicating to you? I would love to hear! This story was originally published on www.elephantjournal.com   Jivan Dios is a Canadian ovarian cancer survivor and therapist living and working in English, French & Greek in Stockholm, Sweden, and on the Greek island of Crete, where she leads customized holistic healing, therapy and couples retreats. She specializes in working online and in person with anxiety, depression, serious illness, fear, pain disorders, stress and obsessive thoughts.    [contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]

Raw Chocolatey Coconut Goji Berry Cheesecake

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Raw Chocolatey Coconut Goji Berry Cheesecake

Ok, so I’m a therapist. But I’m also an enthusiast of healthy (and always delicious) food! And can emotional health really happen without cheesecake? I don’t think so.   Raw Chocolatey Coconut Goji Berry Cheesecake! This cake is as good as it looks. So satisfying as a yummy treat all while you pack in a chockfull of antioxidants, vitamins and minerals your body will thank you for. Here’s the recipe: Filling: 5 dl cashews, soaked for 3 hours to overnight 2 dl goji berries, 1.5 dl soaked for at least 20 min, the other .5dl dry 1.25 dl coconut oil 1 ripe banana 3 tbsp (msk) raw honey 3-6 tbsp (msk) fresh lime juice or lemon juice 1 dl cacao butter (do not skip this ingredient!)

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Yummy & Healthy Whole Goji Berries

Crust: 2.5 dl sunflower seeds, soaked overnight 2.5 dl coconut flakes 1.5 dl dates, soaked to soften 2 tbsp (msk) coconut oil 1.5 tbsp raw honey 6 tbsp raw cacao powder 2 tbsp cardamom 4 tbsp coconut nectar water   Topping: 1 dl raw almonds raw honey to taste pinch of sea salt   Instructions: For crust: In a food processor, pulse the sunflower seeds until they are broken into small pieces. Add the remaining ingredients until a dough is formed. Feel free to add water to get the crust consistency you want. Check for yumminess. Spread the yummy dough in a 22 cm (or the closest to) springform pan.   For the filling: Put all ingredients except dry goji berries in a high speed blender until smooth. When your filling is nice and creamy, stir in dry goji berries and pour mixture in the springform pan onto the crust. You’re almost done!   For the topping: Pulse almonds in a blender or food processor and add honey and salt. Sprinkle mixture onto the top of the cake..and voila! Now, all you need is patience. Place your cake in the freezer for about 5 hours or until you simply cannot wait any longer to dig in! I would love to hear how the recipe worked for you!  xoxo

Raw Food, Yoga & Beach Retreat in Crete

We believe that nature is the ultimate healer.

ZorbaZen House Patio Sea View

ZorbaZen House Patio Sea View

A unique retreat that combines intimate yoga classes coupled with a delicious 100% organic raw vegan cleansing diet and beach relaxation in the amazing wild and raw south coast of Crete. The venue: Zorba Zen House, a traditional Greek Island villa nestled 300 meters above sea level, offering unparalleled views of the Mediterranean and surrounding mountains from its 3 large patios. Each bedroom at Zorba Zen House is carefully designed as to offer relaxation and restful sleep. Join us from May 8-15 2015!

Preveli Beach

Preveli Beach

While you leave your alarm clocks and your over-scheduled, noisy, modern lives behind, you will slip back into the natural rhythms of your body that is your birthright. Retreat, relax, repair, renew, re-discover and replenish your most original self. We host no more than 8 guests at any given time. You will receive unparalleled attention and instruction.     Our Daily program includes: -Customized Yoga instruction (6 mornings a week, beginners to intermediate) -Three 100% organic and yummy Vegan Raw cleansing meals

Raw, Creative, Delicious & Nourishing Salads

Raw, Creative, Delicious & Nourishing Salads

-Wild Herb Teas -Optional hiking in South Crete 2 times in 1 week with expert hikers

Hiking Local Trails

Hiking Local Trails

Our delicious & nourishing food offering: We offer a 100% RAW plant-based, nutritionally balanced, alkaline diet of often locally grown fruits, sprouts, veggies, nuts and seeds prepared in simple yet delicious recipes. Our meal plan is extremely nourishing, cleansing and ultimately very satisfying. We only use spring water from the mountain of Crete.

Raw, Fresh & Wild Figs

Raw, Fresh & Wild Figs

If you need to lose weight, you can expect to shed pounds effortlessly. If you are already at your perfect weight, it will remain stable. Everyone can expect to cleanse environmental toxins, leaving you feeling light and bright.

Cleansing With Green Juice

Cleansing With Green Juice

Eco Outdoor Activities Include: Optional daily nature walks and hikes in pristine gorges, beaches & mountains with sparkling rivers and waterfalls. Afternoons are open to rest, read, write, draw, meditate and nap.       Benefits: You will love your stay here, returning to your home leaner, cleaner, lighter, brighter, stronger, rejuvenated and enthused. Use your retreat as a springboard to a healthier, greener, yogic lifestyle! This is far more than a vacation, it’s a transformation! Each retreat includes a preliminary consultation to insure your experience is personalized for maximum results and regeneration.   Your Hosts:

Jivan in Crete

Jivan in Crete

Jivan Dios Loves little more than to take long walks on the beach and prepare healthy Raw Food. She learned a lot while having studied with Janne Larson, Scandinavia’s foremost teacher on Raw Food Cuisine. When she’s not walking or cooking, she works as a psychotherapist in Stockholm, Sweden and in Crete.       Alf Galfvensjö

Alf Taking in the Sun

Alf Taking in the Sun

 

Local Secluded Beaches - Perfect for Total Relaxation

Local Secluded Beaches – Perfect for Total Relaxation

Your investment: In your total wellbeing is 6500 SEK, 7 nights, all-inclusive except for transport. We kindly request a 50% deposit to hold your reservation. Sorry, no refunds if canceled 30 days or less prior to your arrival date For more info or questions about the retreat or to reserve your spot, contact jivan@opentherapy.se or visit www.opentherapy.se

Oktober: Retreat för par – på Kreta

Fördjupa er relation på Kretas vilda och vackra sydkust. Ge er själva en vecka för att komma närmare varandra och få in ny energi i er parrelation. I vår hektiska vardag är det lätt hänt att vi fastnar i rutiner och börjar känna att vi sakta förlorar närheten till vår partner. Vi märker att vi inte tar den tid vi brukade för att kommunicera med omsorg, ger inte varandra vår fulla uppmärksamhet och glömmer bort att uttrycka och visa hur viktig vår partner är för oss. Vi glömmer till och med bort våra egna behov. Jag och min hustru, Jivan (även hon terapuet), har utformat och leder denna workshop. Den riktar sig till par som längtar efter att komma närmare varandra och uppleva fördjupning och få ny energi in i relationen. Här har ni en chans att göra det i en avslappnande och otroligt vacker miljö där ni också kommer att ha en underbar semester. Workshopgruppen kommer att bestå av högst 3 par, vilket möjliggör en mycket personlig upplevelse. Er integritet är mycket viktigt för oss. En liten del av tiden arbetar vi tillsammans, men för det mesta kommer du arbeta enskilt med din partner och en av oss. Under den här veckan arbetar vi i ett lugnt och avslappnat tempo varvat med fritid och utforskande av den otroligt vacka och oexploaterade kuststräckan där ni bor. Ni kommer att få flera värdefulla verktyg för att komma närmare varandra, inklusive Kärleksfull kommunikation, Förlåtelse och Hur man omvandlar frustration till förtroende, närhet och förståelse. Den här veckan innebär inte gruppterapi, utan en möjlighet för er som ett par att tillsammans formulera er gemensamma vision och djupaste längtan. Ni kommer att ha gott om tid att processa och utforska, individuellt och som par. Så ge er denna veckoretreat, som även kommer att innebära en underbar semester för er båda!

Både avkoppling och äventyr om ni vill

Södra Kreta är en unik del av Grekland, känt för sin mäktiga natur, god mat, avskildhet och långa orörda stränder. En idealisk miljö för kärlek och närhet. Workshoppassen äger rum i samma hus som ni bor i, ZorbaZen House – ett högklassigt boende i ett smakfullt renoverat traditionellt hus med utsikter och atmosfär som ni kommer att älska. Vår vecka börjar med ankomst den 17 oktober, då vi kommer att börja på kvällen med en kort introduktion. Vi kommer att ha workshops på förmiddagarna från 18 oktober till den 21. 22-23 oktober är avsatta för privata sessioner, koppla av på ZorbaZen House eller utforska ön på egen hand. Utcheckning den 24 oktober. Workshopen hålls delvis på engelska med översättning till svenska om så önskas

Exempel på dagsschema

08: 30 närproducerad / ekologisk frukost 09: 30 workshop 13: 00 närproducerad / ekologisk vegetarisk lunch Bad-Beach / Fri tid / Guidade vandringar / Vinprovning (Individuella sessioner och parsessioner på begäran) 19: 00 Middag Pris 6500 kronor, inklusive moms, per par. I priset ingår: 7 nätters dubbelrum i ZorbaZen House, 4 dagars parworkshop, en privat parsession, mestadels ekologiska frukostar, mestadels ekologiska luncher och te & kaffe hela dagen, samt 3 utsökta middagar. OBS: Priset inkluderar inte flyg, transfer till / från flygplatsen, transporter. Hyrbil rekommenderas starkt. Ryanair har mycket billiga biljetter denna period. Gå in på www.ryanair.se och sök på flyg till Grekland-Chania.

Bokning

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Om Alf & Jivan

Som ett par, har vi upplevt separation, skilsmässa, infertilitet, cancer, föräldrars död, 2: a generationens invandrarproblem, kulturella / religiösa skillnader, språkskillnader, att vara styvförälder, börja en ny relation, åldersskillnader, kulturella skillnader i mans- kvinnorollen, föräldraskap, svärföräldrar …. Vi kan lära oss av sådana upplevelser och de kan hjälper oss att växa som individer och som ett par, eller de kan vara förödande. Med hjälp av meditation, lärare och tålamod har vi omvandlat dessa utmanande upplevelser till djupare empati och medkänsla för oss själva, varandra som ett par och andra. Med hjälp av våra erfarenheter, olika modeller och verktyg och vår intuition, hjälper vi många individer och par hitta sin egen väg till ett rikare liv för att fördjupa sin medvetenhet, tillit och trygghet. .. För mer om Jivan, besök www.opentherapy.se För mer om ert boende, besök www.zorbazenhouse.com Läs mer på www.zorbazenhouse.com

I SVERIGE:

Jag kommer under våren 2015 hålla en workshopseriei “Mina drivkrafter och kommunikativa behov – en kurs för människor som jobbar med människor” uppdelad på 4 workshopar à 3 timmar. Om du jobbar i skola/förskola, omsorg, eller liknande kommer dessa workshops att lära dig massor om hur du genom att driva din personliga utvecklijng även får bättre förståelse för de människor du arbetar med. Hör av dig om du har frågor eller för att meddela intresse.