In relationships, for some it’s easier to give…
for others, to receive.
Whichever comes more naturally,
it often tells us something about where we feel most safe…
and where we might feel a little more vulnerable.
Often, giving feels safer.
We try, we offer, we show up.
But receiving… can be more subtle.
You might feel like you give a lot,
and long to receive more in return.
And yet, sometimes the question isn’t:
“Am I receiving enough?”
But rather:
“Am I open to what is actually being given?”
We all carry ideas about how care should look.
And when we focus on what we’re not getting,
we miss the many ways we are already being met.
A cup of coffee.
A small smile.
A message during the day.
An imperfect attempt to connect.
In receiving, fear can arise.
There’s a sense of having less control.
When we give, we decide.
When we receive, we step into the unknown.
So the body can tighten.
We brace, even subtly.
If I soften… will I still get what I need?
And from that place, it becomes harder
to receive what is already here.
Sometimes, we can soften.
One breath. One moment.
And notice…
what is already here.
As you come back to your body, even for a moment,
a natural gratitude can arise…
and life begins to feel more abundant.
A simple practice — Receiving
Take a few minutes each day to pause.
Let your body settle.
Feel where you are sitting or standing.
Gently soften your eyes.
As if you’re no longer looking for anything in particular…
just letting things come to you.
Allow your gaze to rest.
No need to focus.
No need to search.
Let the world arrive to you.
Notice colors.
Shapes.
Light and shadow.
Feel your breath moving.
The support beneath you.
And simply receive…
what is already here.
If the mind starts to look, analyze, or reach…
come back to softening the eyes.
Nothing to find.
Nothing to change.
Just this moment,
meeting you.
If you’d like to explore this more deeply,
I offer couples therapy and individual sessions in Stockholm and online, where we work with these patterns in a practical, grounded way — helping you move from reaction to connection.
And this is something we also explore in my Tantra for Women one-day workshop — a space to slow down, soften, and reconnect with your body and natural way of being. 🌿
